Refresh Your Relationship This Summer
- Being social… look for healthy couples to hang out with. Summer is the time for BBQ’s, pool parties, camping, picnics in the park, and going to the beach. Socializing with other couples will bring about new adventures to add to your list.
- Priority… make your partner feel special. Let them know that your relationship is at the top of your priority list. Brainstorm different ways that you can show them daily.
- Communication… learn to be an effective communicator. Being a good communicator means being a good listener. Most couples listen with the intent to reply, instead, listen with the intent to understand.
- Play nice… it’s not always going to be fun and games. There will be times that you and your partner don’t get along. Watch your tone. No name-calling, no degrading, and no blaming. Before you speak, ask yourself, “is this helping or hurting the relationship?” And, if you slip up, don’t forget to apologize.
- Helping others… volunteering at a Church, soup kitchen, women’s shelter, animal shelter, Red Cross, or nursing home is a great way to give back to the community and will leave you and your partner with a sense of accomplishment.
- Be spontaneous… routines are great; however, it can make a relationship feel monotonous. Break up the routine from time to time to make things more exciting.
- Respect and accept lovingly… learn to accept your partner for the things that you like and don’t like. Respect each other’s differences. Allow your partner to be themselves. If we mold our partner to be what we wish they were, then we only love the reflection of ourselves.
- Take a time-out… everyone needs alone time. Take a personal day and enjoy being with yourself. Go for a walk, have a spa day, hit some balls on the golf course etc.
- Surprises… they don’t have to be elaborate, just something to let your partner know that you are thinking of them. Maybe a card to let your partner know how much you appreciate them, a smiley face balloon to brighten a tough day at work, a bouquet of seasonal flowers, or a gourmet box of chocolates to share while watching a romantic movie. Surprises can also come in other forms –straightening up the garage or cleaning up the kitchen can be a great gift.
- Intimacy… as a couple’s counselor, I hear more times than not that, “we just don’t have time” or, “we are so tired at the end of the day.” Intimacy not only means physical affection, it also means emotional affection. Take time to talk to your partner about your emotional and physical needs. Discuss how you can improve in these areas and follow-through.
- Household duties… make a list of what you are responsible for and what your partner is responsible for in the home. Is it equal? Evenly distributed chores could equal more intimacy. Remember how I said that I hear couples say, “I am just too tired at the end of the day.”
- Experience something new… with social media; there is so much exposure to new and exciting things. Visit Pinterest and see what excites you! Maybe redo a room together or learn how to make sushi this Friday night.
- Spending quality time together… Between work, household chores, and shuttling the children, it is sometimes hard to give each other undivided attention. Schedule some uninterrupted time for the two of you on the family calendar.
Here are some activities that might spark your interest!
White water rafting
Learn a new language
Go for a swim
Rock climb at the gym
Breakfast in bed
Plant a tree to symbolize the relationship
Take an art class
Fondue date night
Stargaze – enjoy a cold drink on the patio and look at the stars
Go bird watching
Plant an herb garden
Take a mini road trip
See a local play
Buy art supplies and paint a picture of each other
Dinner and a movie with a theme – rent “The Three Amigos” and eat Mexican food
Bubble bath for two
Tube a local river
Go to an art gallery
Learn how to play an instrument
Make a 4 course meal together
Give each other massages
Search restaurants in your area and find a new one that you haven’t been to
Relax by the fireplace and roast marshmallows
Learn to dance
Sign up for a race: Mud Run or Color Run
Help out with a charity
Go roller skating
Fulfill your bucket list
Meet your neighbors
Homemade pizza night
Go to a bed and breakfast
Go to a comedy show
Rent mopeds and travel around town
Have a 5 course dinner at different restaurants….
Truth or Dare
Take a surf lesson
Plan a new tradition
Go to the gourmet section and pick out a new coffee to enjoy in the morning
Make candy or bake a cake
Go to the arcade
Candlelight dinner at home
Make a list of 5 things that you love about your partner /exchange lists
Camp out in the living room
You plan half of the evening and your partner plan the other half
Host a dinner party
Wake up early and watch the sunrise
Board game night
Browse the bookstore and pick out a book for each other
Plan a vacation for a year from now
Watch a local band
Go to a sporting event
Watch the sunset
Parade of homes
Paint a room in your house
Change the furniture around
Spend the day browsing the shops
Watch a local band
Reenact your first date
Go to a local farm and pick fruit
Talk about dreams for the future
Take the dog to the dog park
Detail the cars
Have brunch this weekend
Enjoy a new cuisine – Vietnamese, German, Italian, French
Regina Bright, MS, LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
Board Certified Sex Therapist
Florida Supreme Court Family Mediator
Stepping Stones Professional Counseling
151 Mary Esther Blvd. Suite 310 A.
Mary Esther, Fl 32569