Refresh Your Relationship This Summer

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Refresh Your Relationship This Summer

ImageSometimes our relationships can become stagnant. It’s time to reignite the flame and restore the passion that you and your partner deserve.

 
  • Being social… look for healthy couples to hang out with. Summer is the time for BBQ’s, pool parties, camping, picnics in the park, and going to the beach. Socializing with other couples will bring about new adventures to add to your list.
  • Priority… make your partner feel special. Let them know that your relationship is at the top of your priority list. Brainstorm different ways that you can show them daily.
  • Communication… learn to be an effective communicator. Being a good communicator means being a good listener. Most couples listen with the intent to reply, instead, listen with the intent to understand.
  • Play nice… it’s not always going to be fun and games. There will be times that you and your partner don’t get along. Watch your tone. No name-calling, no degrading, and no blaming.  Before you speak, ask yourself, “is this helping or hurting the relationship?” And, if you slip up, don’t forget to apologize.
  • Helping others… volunteering at a Church, soup kitchen, women’s shelter, animal shelter, Red Cross, or nursing home is a great way to give back to the community and will leave you and your partner with a sense of accomplishment. 
  • Be spontaneous… routines are great; however, it can make a relationship feel monotonous. Break up the routine from time to time to make things more exciting.   
  • Respect and accept lovingly… learn to accept your partner for the things that you like and don’t like. Respect each other’s differences.  Allow your partner to be themselves. If we mold our partner to be what we wish they were, then we only love the reflection of ourselves.
  • Take a time-out… everyone needs alone time. Take a personal day and enjoy being with yourself. Go for a walk, have a spa day, hit some balls on the golf course etc. 
  • Surprises… they don’t have to be elaborate, just something to let your partner know that you are thinking of them. Maybe a card to let your partner know how much you appreciate them, a smiley face balloon to brighten a tough day at work, a bouquet of seasonal flowers, or a gourmet box of chocolates to share while watching a romantic movie.  Surprises can also come in other forms –straightening up the garage or cleaning up the kitchen can be a great gift.
  • Intimacy… as a couple’s counselor, I hear more times than not that, “we just don’t have time” or, “we are so tired at the end of the day.” Intimacy not only means physical affection, it also means emotional affection. Take time to talk to your partner about your emotional and physical needs. Discuss how you can improve in these areas and follow-through.
  • Household duties… make a list of what you are responsible for and what your partner is responsible for in the home. Is it equal? Evenly distributed chores could equal more intimacy.  Remember how I said that I hear couples say, “I am just too tired at the end of the day.”
  • Experience something new… with social media; there is so much exposure to new and exciting things. Visit Pinterest and see what excites you!  Maybe redo a room together or learn how to make sushi this Friday night.
  • Spending quality time together… Between work, household chores, and shuttling the children, it is sometimes hard to give each other undivided attention. Schedule some uninterrupted time for the two of you on the family calendar.
 
Here are some activities that might spark your interest!
   White water rafting
   Cooking class
   Geocaching
   Learn a new language
   Go for a swim
   Rock climb at the gym
   Photography
   Breakfast in bed
   Kayaking
   Plant a tree to symbolize the relationship
   Take an art class
   Fondue date night
   Stargaze – enjoy a cold drink on the patio and look at the stars
   Meditate
   Go bird watching
   Plant an herb garden
   Take a mini road trip
   See a local play
   Horseback ride
   Bowling
   Buy art supplies and paint a picture of each other
   Dinner and a movie with a theme – rent “The Three Amigos” and eat Mexican food
   Aquarium
   Zoo
   Circus
   Rodeo
   Go-carts
   Mini golf
   Sailing
   Bubble bath for two
   Hiking
   Bike ride
   Poetry class
   Paddle boarding
   Yoga
   Tube a local river
   Jet ski
   Go to an art gallery
   Learn how to play an instrument
   Make a 4 course meal together
   Give each other massages
   Search restaurants in your area and find a new one that you haven’t been to
   Relax by the fireplace and roast marshmallows
   Learn to dance
   Science Center
   Sign up for a race: Mud Run or Color Run
   Help out with a charity
   Go roller skating
   Fulfill your bucket list
   Pottery class
   Meet your neighbors
   Homemade pizza night
   Go to a bed and breakfast
   Go to a comedy show
   Rent mopeds and travel around town
   Have a 5 course dinner at different restaurants….
   Truth or Dare
   Take a surf lesson
   Plan a new tradition
   Zip lining
   Go to the gourmet section and pick out a new coffee to enjoy in the morning
   Make candy or bake a cake
   Museum
   Go to the arcade
   Candlelight dinner at home
   Make a list of 5 things that you love about your partner /exchange lists
   Camp out in the living room
   You plan half of the evening and your partner plan the other half
   Host a dinner party
   Hot tub
   Wake up early and watch the sunrise
   Board game night
   Waterpark
   Browse the bookstore and pick out a book for each other
   Plan a vacation for a year from now
   Watch a local band
   Go to a sporting event
   Flea market
   Frisbee
   Tennis
   Puzzle
   Watch the sunset
   Parade of homes
   Karaoke
   Paint a room in your house
   Change the furniture around
   Spend the day browsing the shops
   Antiquing
   Watch a local band
   Go golfing
   Collect seashells
   Reenact your first date
   Go to a local farm and pick fruit
   Ice skating
   Talk about dreams for the future
   Take the dog to the dog park
   Beach volleyball
   Detail the cars
   Have brunch this weekend
   Enjoy a new cuisine – Vietnamese, German, Italian, French
   Dodge ball

 

Regina Bright, MS, LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
Board Certified Sex Therapist
Clinical Supervisor
Parent Coordinator
Florida Supreme Court Family Mediator

 

Stepping Stones Professional Counseling
151 Mary Esther Blvd. Suite 310 A.
Mary Esther, Fl 32569
850-226-6430
Fax: 850-254-1986
 

 

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About Regina Bright, LMHC

At Stepping Stones Professional Counseling, we provide psychological counseling for children, adults, and families; relationship counseling, marital communication, conflict resolution, PTSD, depression, anxiety disorders, ADHD, children & adolescent behavior issues, parent-teen issues, substance abuse, sexual dysfunction, sexual addiction, mood disorders, stress management and anger management.

7 responses »

  1. Nice list of activities. It is so easy to get bogged down with your daily duties and forget to take time for yourself and significant other to keep the flames going. Great post!

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